For Educators
If a Student Shares Something Concerning
Steps for Success topics such as anxiety, eating disorders, addiction and bullying invite students to think about real experiences. Sometimes a project brings something personal to the surface. This page is a quick guide to what to do. It doesn't replace your school's policies: always follow your school's procedures and involve your counselor.
Before you begin a topic
- Tell your school counselor or mental health staff which topic you're starting and when.
- Know your school's procedure for student safety concerns, and who to call.
- Set ground rules with the class: share ideas, not other people's stories; it's always okay to pass; students can talk with you privately anytime.
- Let students know who they can talk to, and that some things can't be kept secret if someone may be at risk.
If a student tells you something
- Stay calm, listen, and thank them for telling you.
- Don't promise to keep it secret. Explain that you may need to share it with someone who can help.
- Don't investigate, diagnose or press for details. That's for the counselor or other professionals.
- Tell the student what will happen next and who you'll involve.
- Let your counselor know the same day, and follow your school's procedure.
If a student may be in danger
- If a student talks about suicide or self-harm, or you believe they are at immediate risk, don't leave them alone. Contact your counselor or an administrator right away.
- Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) for guidance, or call 911 in an emergency.
- If you suspect abuse or neglect, follow your school's reporting procedure. Teachers are mandated reporters in New York and most other states.
Signs to watch for during a project
- Withdrawal, mood changes or a sudden drop in participation
- Project work or comments that suggest hopelessness, worthlessness or self-harm
- Comments about eating, weight or body that worry you
- A student who lingers to talk after class, or avoids the topic entirely
You don't need to be sure. Pass your concern along to the counselor and let them follow up.
Afterward
- Check in with the student privately and gently.
- Document what happened according to your school's policy.
- Look after yourself. These conversations can be heavy; talk them over with your counselor or a trusted colleague.
Questions about using Steps for Success safely? Contact Madraigos at info@madraigos.org or 516.371.3250.